As humans, we have a natural inclination towards structure and organization, even in our conversations. One aspect of this structure is the preferences for agreement and contiguity in sequences during a conversation.
Agreement preference refers to our tendency to seek common ground and agreement during a conversation. This can manifest in several ways, including matching the pace and tone of our conversation partner, using similar language and phrasing, and avoiding confrontation or disagreement.
Contiguity preference, on the other hand, refers to our preference for sequential and connected conversation topics. We tend to organize our conversations in a linear way, building on previous topics and maintaining a clear connection between them.
These preferences are not only important for effective communication but also play a role in establishing rapport and building relationships. When we agree with our conversation partner and maintain a contiguous conversation flow, we can establish and maintain a positive connection.
However, these preferences can also pose challenges in communication, especially in cross-cultural conversations. Different cultural backgrounds may have different expectations for how to express agreement or disagreement, and what topics are considered contiguous.
In addition, these preferences can also lead to conformity and groupthink. If we prioritize agreement and contiguity above all else, we may suppress our own unique thoughts and perspectives in order to fit in with the conversation flow.
As with any aspect of communication, it is important to be aware of our own preferences and biases and to strive for open and honest communication. By balancing the preferences for agreement and contiguity with authenticity and open-mindedness, we can foster meaningful and productive conversations.